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300th Post & Blog Update

It’s the 300th MS Mommy Blog post! I didn’t imagine ever reaching this point when I first started my blog nearly three years ago. I assumed I would lose interest. A big thank you to all my followers. I appreciate all of you. In honor of this milestone post, I wanted to provide some interesting facts about the blog and an update about the future of the MS Mommy Blog.

Interesting Facts about the Blog

These are some of the current insights I wanted to share. It’s all modest, as I am a small-time blogger with limited resources. But I am proud of it.

  • The current most popular post is “Early Childhood Education Blogs
  • The most popular post of all-time is “The First Couple of Days…” with 390 total views
  • March is always my most popular month (MS Awareness)
  • I average between 1,100-1,200 words with each post
  • I’ve re-branded the blog three times: tracking my health changes, focusing on motherhood, and finally healthy living with a chronic illness
  • The three top countries of visitors: United States, United Kingdom, and Canada

The Future of the Blog

So while a 300th post is something to celebrate, I am finding it harder to keep it up as I would like. Partially because the blog costs a lot financially, mentally, and physically for me to maintain.

I put a lot of work into writing each post. I am providing a service to people struggling with a chronic illness, specifically MS, with each post. I want people recently diagnosed to see there are options. MS and chronic disease is not a death sentence. It’s a chance to embrace resiliency and learn to adapt to a new normal.

This is a service I am providing for free. The ad revenue on my blog will not payout for years. Maybe this means that I am offering a service nobody wants, and I understand that. I still want to provide it in some capacity. But I cannot do it the way I’ve been going. 

I struggle to ask for money, and I tend to undervalue my work because of it. I know there are options for me as a blogger, but I do not have the time to pursue them. I had a Ko-Fi page at one point but never pushed it because I struggle to ask readers to help.

With that said, if the financial support of the blog does not change, I must reconsider how much time I put into the blog. With all the significant changes I’ve dealt with these past few months, I recognize that I may need to re-prioritize my time.

What this means is the frequency of my posting may go down to once or twice a week. I am hoping to maintain consistency with the content themes, though I feel like February is a little haphazard. If the blog does start to bring in more income, my posting frequency will be more consistent, reflecting demand. 

So, if you ever found my writing useful or comforting, please consider contributing a few dollars through my Ko-Fi page. If you are unable to donate, please share my blog whenever a post resonates with you to friends and family. It helps my blog grow.

All of this is a good thing. I am not sad, and I am not disappointed. I am honest with myself and with you about my capabilities. I love writing what I write, and I plan to continue to do so, it just may change over the next few months.

Thank you to everyone who’s followed my blog from the beginning and to all the supporters I’ve built along the way. I appreciate every one of you even if I don’t say it or respond to your comments. Here’s to another 300 posts (even if it takes five more years).

Attention to Chronic Illness Bloggers!

The MS Mommy Blog is looking to collaborate with other chronic illness bloggers for this year. If you have a chronic illness blog and would like an opportunity to tap into the MS Mommy Blog audience, please contact me here. I look forward to hearing from you.


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Happy Holidays

From our family to yours: we hope your holidays are sweet and bright. Stay safe, and may you be blessed with the spirit of the season.


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Love & MS

This post was originally published in February 2018. I’ve updated it to include a follow up since the original publication.


We don’t get to choose whether or not we get MS, nor do we get to decide when we get that diagnosis. For some, it comes while in a relationship, and for others, it happens outside of one.

Either scenario forces the following self-reflectiondoes my partner stay with me? And, do I disclose my situation on a date? MS is challenging because it turns partners or potential partners into caretakers.

It fosters self-doubt after the diagnosisis my partner with me because they feel obligated? Do they resent having to care for me? Are they only interested in me because they have to “fix” me? What happens if they leave or die before me?

It is little wonder that many bloggers and experts refer to MS as the third wheel in a relationship. It’s an unwanted obstacle that can put a strain on any current or budding relationship.

The Third Wheel

MS is the unpredictable cousin that comes into your life and needs a place to crash until they get on their feet. They take up space on a centrally located couch and refuse to leave when you want to watch a movie with your partner (or bring a date home). They say they are looking for a job, but really spend all day watching half-hour courtroom shows with ads for injury lawyers.

It’s that cousin that interrupts you every time you want to have a conversation with someone. Because of the interruption, you forget what you were saying and get frustrated because you can’t remember.

Simply put: MS is an unwelcome third-party to your relationship that isn’t going to leave anytime soon. No matter how many times you ask it to get its act together and move on.

Trying to figure MS out and how it factors into a relationship is extremely hard. In addition to maintaining a relationship, I am trying to learn my limitations. How much do I put on or ask of Ash? Should I even ask him to help? Is the relationship lopsided? Am I really that bad that I need his help? Or am I just imagining things?

MS is always hiding in the background of every thought or action I take. I have to plan out my day to make sure I have enough energy for when Ash gets home to make any interactions with him meaningful. I have to pause frequently and ask myself: am I feeling this way because this is normal for someone who only got 4 hours of sleep with a teething toddler, or is this because of the MS?

As you can see, I ask myself a lot of questions. I tend to overthink things, and so it takes a lot of energy to manage my MS. So when it is time for quality time with Ash, sometimes I just don’t have what it takes to be the partner I think he deserves.

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Autumn Rest

For whatever reason, I struggle to write in November. I don’t know if it has something to do with the shift in weather, the pending holiday season, or writing burnout. But every November since I started this blog, I struggle to write. Additionally, dealing with Lytton’s health issues makes it hard to keep up with my weekly writing.

Rather than adding to my stress, I am following my own advice and engaging in self-care. I will be taking the month off from creating new content. If you are a newsletter subscriber, you will still get a new email each Friday morning. If you aren’t subscribed, it’s never too late to join the 2019 wellness challenge.

I will be revisiting some of my older posts for the month on the blog, updating the content with fresh thoughts when appropriate. Join me over at Facebook and Twitter for related articles to my posts.

I will re-start new content on December 2nd, so it won’t be a long wait. I have a gift for all my readers available for download towards the end of the holiday season, so be ready!

Have an excellent November, and I will see you in December.


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